The Furious Angels
FA Discussion => Off Topic => Topic started by: Sared on May 06, 2007, 02:48:56 am
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Thank you eHarmony. I hate life now.
Ahem. NEXT.
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Lame!
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lol so what do you have going for you that you're so bad the internet won't help you date?
:p
I still love ya man ;)
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LAWL. Nice to see you're still up and around SARED! :D:D
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Wow. ROFL.
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It is better to have loved and lost, than to never have....
Fuck. That sucks, man. :p
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I saw a commercial about this like yesterday. It was for some new edating service and they started off by saying how 1 out of 5 people who use eHarmony are told they can't be matched with anybody. Then they guarantee you at least five matches or something like that. I forget who the advertisement was for.
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I saw that one too, T'. I can't for the life of me remember the name.
Don't worry Sared. You can find crappy dates without paying someone else to do it for you.
My rule of thumb is this: If you're just looking for a fu...I mean a good time, go to the bar. For anything more than that, look everywhere but.
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I saw a commercial about this like yesterday. It was for some new edating service and they started off by saying how 1 out of 5 people who use eHarmony are told they can't be matched with anybody. Then they guarantee you at least five matches or something like that. I forget who the advertisement was for.
Saw this a few days ago: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NgxOhG2nDOA
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lol so what do you have going for you that you're so bad the internet won't help you date?
Die in a car fire. Thanks. :)
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:D
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Geez bro. I'm honestly surprised the Internet can't find you anything. Here I thought I was the only one not having any luck with this online dating stuff.
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Dating in general sucks... Don't worry Sared, you're not missing much. They distract you from work, give you added stress, make your life miserable, you're constatly worrying about them and their problems, you're constantly worrying if they're worrying about you and your problems or not.... just not worth it unless you find a damn good one.
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Ugh online dating. What do I have to say about this? I've had three online boyfriends, and quite a few flings, and not a single one of them got me what I really wanted. If you're not financially stable and the partner isn't financially stable, it won't work out because you two won't be able to visit each other. Also, your partner could be messing around with you when really they've got someone right there. yeah, people do that. I just broke up with my "boyfriend" because of a bunch of shit. Over time, you'll realize that there's a lot of aspects to a relationship with someone who you can touch and feel, and that you're missing out on almost all of them because they live somewhere else.
Rejected by eHarmony? They just saved you tons of time. Now get out there, go party, meet tons of drunk girls, and find yourself someone to bang.
AND OMG WHY ARE YOU (AND YOU TURRET) HAVING DIFFICULTY FINDING SOMEONE!? Has this world gone MAD!?
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.... just not worth it unless you find a damn good one.
Thats what I'm trying for...
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AND OMG WHY ARE YOU (AND YOU TURRET) HAVING DIFFICULTY FINDING SOMEONE!? Has this world gone MAD!?
Amen to that :D
But I don't think he's looking for an online girlfriend. Sared though, aren't you supposed to have a vow of celibacy or something? ;)
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NO.
/smack
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Ouch. Do it again :p
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o.O whips and chains time? :|
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I think eHarmony finds someone close to your area - so it's not really online dating as much as it is skipping the process of weeding out the millions of skanky bar flies to find the one person at the bar who is looking for the same thing you are.
As for why we have trouble finding women... this equation is one that has existed for centuries:
# Women is indirectly proportional to how nice the guy is
So if we were to put this on a scale from 0 - 100...
If I am 100% nice, I will have 0% women
If I am 0% nice, I will have 100% women
There are other factors, like if you have a girlfriend. Basically multiply women % by 5 if you are taken.
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I gotta admit, bad boys always do attract the beautiful women. but every woman likes her nice guy too. :D
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I agree completely with T, as that has always, without fail, been my experience.
And this is just for Destyn really.
(http://www.lolcats2.com/full/fuck_you_guys.jpg)
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Case in point...
Tonight I had two options. One girl came to see my show. Another girl works costumes for the show. Both were possible dates. I decided I needed to take action. I decided to ask the costume girl out for something to eat and she pretty much rejected me. Later that evening, I get a message from the girl I basically ignored saying we should go out sometime soon. Seriously...wtf...
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I feel so special :D
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The girl seems really excited to hang out with me...had a good conversation with her that makes me feel a little better about the other girl pretty much laughing in my face. Unfortunately this girl is leaving town in June...which totally explains why it all seems to be coming together all the sudden.
There is a rare curse put on a few people on this earth. It is the curse of bad timing. What's funny is that I've known this girl pretty much for the past 3 months. We've never really been able to set the wheels in motion...I thought she wasn't even interested. All the sudden out of the blue she shows an interest. But why?
Because of my bad timing. My chances of finding women increase with the bad timing factor. So I have three weeks top to try to enjoy what might be in this, assuming this first date goes well. Keep on laughing Fate...
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the other girl pretty much laughing in my face.
I hate those bitchy costume chicks... oh wait....
<.< >.>
nothing to see here
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LMAO.... uhmmm...I'm telling!!
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I think a badtiming/chances of Tbone dating graph needs to be made.
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sorry i'm late posting on this thread...
let me just say fuck eharmony. match.com is way better. i met my boyfriend on there in december and things are still good :D
otherwise, if you just want to screw, go to adultfriendfinder.com (so naughty there!) or check craig's list in your town.
really dating online isn't all bad. like countess said they have to live near you so...
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Exactly :D Thanks for the support Vermillion. MUAHZ!!
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Women. This subject is more convoluted than all 3 of the Matrix movies put together.
As far as the "nice guy", "bad boy" thing: If they are smart, they eventually realize that the "bad boy" has been or will eventually fuck them over. At this point, they usually end up going out with some nerdy ma ma's boy. (read: the opposite extreme.)
Lucky is the decent man who finds a hot chick. Treat her well because this doesn't happen often.
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yeah but becareful Tbone the moment you show serious interest in her, then she'll throw you out like a yard dog. It's weird like that sometimes. When you show a girl no interest just because you think that she doesn't like you "in that way" she immediately becomes attracted to you.. So, your immediate response is to persue the possibilities of a relationship, and once you do, the attraction seems to leave her as quick as it came. sigh what a sad sad world we live in. :)
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not entirely true!
sometimes guys spew all kinds of crazy shit and act like leeches in the beginning of the relationship, and the minute a girl starts buying into it HE STOPS DOING IT SO NAH :P
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you've gotta be able to read through all the "crazy shit", see past the looks and other distractions and see who he really is as a person. If you think he's full of shit, don't even bother.
On the other hand, women need to stop playing games too. There is a reason some men act like dogs. Women claim they want men to show real interest in them, but magically when they do, guess what? *POOF* The men that usually get the attention ARE the one's who act like dogs. Those are the guys who usually have women chasing after them.
Explain that to me and I will make you the richest person in the world.
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I know the secret:
Date older women. Seriously.
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But but...What about me? :(
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But but...What about me? :(
You can date older women too, Countess. :D
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OMG NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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But but...What about me? :(
Your restricted to dating guys that were born with 2 days of you.
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countess you can start by giving back my pants!!! you need to stop with the shrine of Pirus on your wall it probably throws the guys off seeing my pants hanging up there LOL :)
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You know... you'd probably find it easier to understand your opposite sexes if you stopped generalizing about them and took time to get to know them.
Just my 2c ;)
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Omg I'm legal in Canada now gentlemen. 16 and up, no three year limit set anymore. YAY! And 2 days older? puhlease. More like 1-8 years older. Yeah....
And Pirus, it's unfortunate, but while lighting a candle, your pants caught on fire, thereby burning down my shrine. :(
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^ LOL
didn't someone already say that eventually girls realize they are being treated like shit and get the hell out of the relationship? so guys acting like that don't win.
and no, i'm not making generalizations, i'm talking about my boyfriend...so maybe it's not so good :P
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gasp i liked those pants! :( sigh oh well atleast guys wont be freaked out by it anymore :)
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Ok, I have found myself in quite the situation.
I live with a girl and asked her out on a date and she said no, right. So I suddenly get a date with another girl. We go on this date and have a great time - get along really well, both hope that things continue. Well, last night the first girl, who originally said no, began to flirt big time and confessed that she was just scared when I first asked her because I'll be leaving in a few weeks. She knows about the date I had, but we end up hooking up. She acknowledges it is her fault for not acting sooner since I asked her out first.
Now I don't know what to do. I went from no girls to two. Both of them are great and are really into me. One girl I've hung out with quite a bit since we live and work together and will be here until I leave. The other girl seems really into me but she is leaving in three weeks for a dance festival and won't be back until I am gone.
My problem is I don't want to call it off with either one of them. There's no way to do it without being a jerk. I find myself now sitting in my room frantically trying to figure this out, as later tonight I'm supposed to hang out with one of them. What do I do?
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Take both!
Honestly, you should go with your gut on this one since you're at liberty to choose. Take the one that has the most appeal to you. Also, don't feel obligated to the other girl because she missed a chance. How much of a jerk can you look like after all?
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That could be a potential threesome, TBone :P OMG DO I SMELL CHANCE MEETING!?
Yeah don't do that till you know them a little better. I like Jeyk's advice. Take the one with the most appeal :P
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That's the problem. I don't know which one has more appeal because I haven't had time to date both and see.
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Physically? :D
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um.. yeah.. can I just say that this problem ONLY happens when you find someone else.. if you wouldn't have found someone else the odds are good that she would have never said this to you (even if she didn't know you have found someone else she still wouldn't have told you this if you hadn't.. see) it is the guys curse and bad luck.. screwed if you do screwed if you don't kinda thing.. unfortunately.. my advice is two fold...
I would stick it out with the girl that you are hitting it off with.. simply because well.. she wasn't afraid to say yes...
second part of the advice.. you won't seem like a jerk by telling the scared girl that its kinda too late.. should have said something sooner... (I have every faith in you Tbone that you are much smoother than to say it like that)..
Anyways.. if the one girl leaves soon.. then you still have a little while after that for the other girl.. ;)
Can't date both at the same time.. one lives with you.. she will know when you have been out with another girl.
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Am I missing something, or does dating mean seeing people and deciding if you like them?
Why would one of them have a problem with you seeing another?
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he already hooked up with scared girl! helloooo she'll so be pissed now if he doesn't choose her!
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I decided to tell the girl I live with to keep it at a friendly flirtatious level for a while, and that I feel I should persue the girl I went on a date with because she deserves a chance. Pretty much I have the girl I live with now waiting three weeks for the other girl to leave. It's already a bit awkward because the girl stayed over last night and she saw me going out for the date etc. etc. It never can be simple.
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Am I missing something, or does dating mean seeing people and deciding if you like them?
Why would one of them have a problem with you seeing another?
Hehe, I remember thinking about this a lot back in high school. "Dating" in the traditional sense means seeing a few people and eventually coming to a decision of which to date exclusively. But at some point in the last decade or so, "dating" has become synonymous with "committed relationship".
There was always a double-standard when I was in high school. I don't know if times have since changed. If a guy dated lots of girls, he was a "pimp". If a girl dated lots of guys, she was a slut.
Honest to god, reading this thread makes me so goddamn happy to be single. :D
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Yeah, in all honesty I could try to "date" both of them except for I live with one of them, so the illusion that they are the only one in the picture would be kinda shot.
Dating has changed quite a bit. Instead of "dating", you might casually hook up with people. When you want to get serious, then you actually take someone on a date. It's kinda backwards.
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That could be a potential threesome, TBone :P OMG DO I SMELL CHANCE MEETING!?
Yeah don't do that till you know them a little better. I like Jeyk's advice. Take the one with the most appeal :P
Actually, I've discovered that one of them is bi. Hehe
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YEAH BABY!!! JACKPOT!!.....
.....ummm....I mean....cool. Equal opportunity.
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Actually, I've discovered that one of them is bi. Hehe
I just tried, and failed, to write a long arduous post, but the fact of the matter is this: I cannot even begin to describe how down and truly fucked you are now. :o
And if the bi girl likes strap-ons then the above sentence will ring all the truer.
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Yeah, well I called it off with her. Now I'm with the girl I live with. What a mess!
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Kind of you not to put her through three agonizing weeks, and not to spend three weeks in a relationship with someone else that you know is going to end anyway. :)
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Just be single. Its easier. Single doesn't mean you won't have any fun. in most cases, you'll have more fun. ;-)
Now I am aware this may not sound like "good" advice, but it is true, non the less.
The only exception is if you find a truely good woman and are man enough to handle a serious relationship with her emotionally and otherwise. Good women are hard to find.
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*waves hands*
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Hi
*waves back*
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So the girl I live with whom I am now dating doesn't really return my messages or phone calls anymore. She also now suddenly ignores me most of the time. She did come by my room tonight and I asked her if she is still interested and she said she is. I asked if I was trying too hard or anything like that (hence why she would ignore me) and she said no. Anyway, I'm not sure if I wanna be in this relationship if it means getting ignored all day long.
To make matters worse, during my emotional diress of being ignored, I called the other girl up. She didn't answer, but she called me back later tonight. I stupidly answered with nothing to say, and babbled on about how I wasn't sure I made the right decision.
Now I feel the girl I live with would make a good friend but that dating is making things weird. And the girl I went on the dates with I actually connect with on a more romantic level.
So I'm right back where I started, only the girls are switched. I've played enough games that I deserve whatever BS I'm gonna get over this. Fuck edating? Fuck dating!
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Ah, such a complex species we are. HURRAY!!
You know, she may not give you shit over this. You're confused. If she's a good prospective girlfriend, she should understand.
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The only exception is if you find a truely good woman and are man enough to handle a serious relationship with her emotionally and otherwise.
See I don't get how men can cheat on their significant others, it takes so much effort to get a good looking girl in bed. It's like paying for mp3s when you can just download them for free, except the mp3s cost $10 per song instead of 99cents.
I believe my exact words were "the only way I'm going to cheat is if something like that rape scene in 40 Days and 40 Nights happens to me" Not saying I'd mind it, but it's a very unlikely scenario.
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you know i think i give up too. i'm so tired of pouring my heart and soul into this relationship and not getting what i want out of it. what i am getting is disappointment and anxiety. i'm just sick of it.
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well... if it is any consolation I have been dating my girl for about 2 and a half years.. I went and put a down payment on a ring.. she kinda found out and she has been so hot and cold since then it is driving me nuts.. *to specify hot and cold* she goes from being overly loving and emotional to being crazy angry... if she is gonna be like this if we get married it will drive me up a metaphorical wall.
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To answer your question....yes
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Relationships = Expectations.
Expectations = Complications.
Hence, Relationships = Complications.
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I still don't understand why you settle for the first thing you find. You kids are weird ;)
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:P
i've looked, trust me. i'm tired of giving 110%.
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Can we just all agree that it should be impossible to give more than 100% of anything from here on out? Good.
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Yeah, you wanna find that 50/50 relationship where you meet each other half way (or both give 100%, depending on how you look at it). I understand the "110%" because you almost feel like you are giving TOO MUCH to try to compensate for the other person practically not giving anything. That's my current situation. It's like pulling teeth just getting her to talk to me. I'm already sick of it and it's only been like three days.
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I have a situation now too. I could use some help. This guy I'm dating is beginning to bug me. For example, in order to get him to stop doing something I really don't like, like tickling my feet (I'm very ticklish, and I kick when I'm tickled, and if he tickles my feet, I'm afraid of kicking him in the face) I have to get really serious with him, and that's hard to do when I'm being tickled. I have to like, knock him off of me, or hurt him badly in order to get him to stop doing it right now, and then I have to get serious and tell him it makes me feel uncomfortable. I'm not a serious person, and I have a 3 thousand dollar smile that I love to flaunt, so it's hard for me to get serious. So in the process of telling him to stop, he thinks I'm joking because I joke about everything. And then, when he realizes I'm not joking, he says, "You know, you only have to say stop and I will." Like, ugh, the first forty times should have been SOME SORT OF CLUE!
I feel like everything I say is being challenged. Like, if I complain about my neck hurting, he asks me if I'm saying his bed is uncomfortable.
And it REALLY bugs me when he calls me "Woman." I was like, "Would you like it if I referred to you as 'Man'?" (To which he replied, "No. I have a name." And I don't?) I told him I would rather be referred to by my name than my gender and he laughed and replied, "Women!"
But even though he annoys me sometimes, (there are a lot of "sometimes"), I'm attracted to him. If I have to lay down ground rules for every situation, I'm gonna have to tell him to hit the road. So, do you guys think there's anyway I can get him to stop being so annoying without sitting him down and getting all serious? I mean, I won't mind doing that either, but exploring my options is as good as anything in my opinion. Should I just tell him to fuck off so I can go have some fun with someone new? (I've only known this guy for like, three/four weeks.)
And I have these eery feeling that my parents aren't going to like him. Ugh. I think I'm complicating the situation in order to avoid confrontation. *sigh*
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I feel like everything I say is being challenged. Like, if I complain about my neck hurting, he asks me if I'm saying his bed is uncomfortable.
Drop him like a hot rock. I hate to say it like that, but nobody should have to put up with that shit. I was in a relationship for about 8 months, and had to deal with that kind of stuff for 6 of them.
Everything I said would be spun around and twisted into a negative comment about her. I felt like I had to watch every single word I said, and make sure it was absolutely fool-proof before it came out of my mouth. "Walking on eggshells" I believe is the term.
Not worth it at all. :(
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hmmm...we'll see
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ya t i know what you're saying...it gets old real fast.
countess...it just sounds like he's a young annoying guy, and if your parents don't like him, then you have a great excuse to get rid of him ;)
ya i'm pretty much walking on eggshells now. i can't seem to have a problem with anything without him completely freaking out. so i'm afraid to tell him something cause i'll piss him off.
plus he has this mystery relationship with his ex that the story is always changing.
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Time to drop your boyfriends. ;) Both Vermillion, and Countess. Both of your situations seem to be asking for trouble. In my opinion, anyways.
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I don't have much experience but my thoughts are that women need to drop boyfriends that make them miserable. Sure you can fix a serious problem temporarily; for a week, two weeks, a month, two months; but it usually comes back and so does the miserableness. Save yourselves the long term pain, be the stronger person, drop the attachment, and move on to the next. You'll eventually come to someone who won't cause you the pain.
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ya i think yous are right. especially when today he told me to keep my problems to myself.
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i'm not one to play games, but i've been told that this thing isn't a real relationship, and since i'm not in one i don't have to break up with him. so, if all the guys out there can put a comment on my myspace that would be greeeeeat :D
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Can I make a account with a fat balding man? :D That'll be fun hehehe.... *ahem* Nothing so see here...
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Here's my advice...
Look back and all you wrote, you have your answer already just follow through with it. Life is too short to stay with someone who doesn't make you completely happy.
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omg manic is awesome.
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I left quite the scandalous comment!
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I left quite the scandalous comment!
HA!
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To Vermillion and Countess:
If they really bug you this much you shouldn't invest any emotions into them. Remember, YOU control how you feel and YOU regulate how much control they have over you. It sounds heartless but sometimes you have to look at love like a business deal... 'what good will come of being with this person?' 'what are the negatives of dating him/her?' and then decide if the positives outweigh the negatives.
T: I think you'd do well to think about those things, too.
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All of your advice sounds excellent. My problem is actually following through with it. I want to give him a chance, I really really do, because I'm a fair person, and I may be wrong. But at the same time, I'm just so..annoyed. His ex is calling him all the time cause he says she's pregnant with either his child or this next guy's child; he gets mad at me for no reason: For example, tonight, KNOWING THAT I HAD PLANS WITH ASHLEY (a close friend of mine and his) he goes and calls me and bitches at me for "standing him up." I never made plans with him or anything and I just didn't want to hear him, so I said, "I will see you when I see you. I'm not your girl yet, if at all."
Plus, ALL OF HIS FRIENDS know about me. I WAS NAKED IN HIS BED (covered very quickly by a blanket) and his friend just walks in and is like, "So, you're Sarah? Nice to meet you. I heard a lot about you." You know how many friends of mine know about him? ONE! AND SHE'S ASHLEY!
The more I write and hear and think about this guy, the more I'm sure I don't want to be with him; the more I'm sure he's not the right guy for me to even consider a friendship with.
However, I may have found the reason why I'm so heavily attracted to him!
I'm taking a psychology, anthropology, and sociology course in high school. It's a very very good course to take, and it's rather interesting. After looking at my notes, I realized why I'm so attracted to this guy.
My father and I don't have a good relationship. As a matter of fact, I can tell you the million reasons I have to hate my father. However, I am always looking for acceptance by him. Because I never get it, I fear that I've found someone else to try to get acceptance from, and I believe that person is Scott (my guy.)
But I'm making assumptions and this is gonna be one long ass post, so I'll stop now :P
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I'm not one to play games, but I've been told that this thing isn't a real relationship, and since I'm not in one I don't have to break up with him. so, if all the guys out there can put a comment on my myspace that would be greeeeeat :D
A comment along the lines of "Hey you sexy thang. What's shaken? When are we going to hang out? ;)"? Sound good?
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t did leave quite the scandalous comment! i did a =O so if you want to put that it's all good lol
thanks to all for the support :D
i heart jo0s
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Speaking of dating... Ladies and Gentlemen, the ONLY man Lits would ever bring back to the Libertas...
(http://i52.photobucket.com/albums/g36/FALits/antonio-banderas.jpg)
(http://i52.photobucket.com/albums/g36/FALits/cover.jpg)
(http://i52.photobucket.com/albums/g36/FALits/antonio-7.jpg)
José Antonio Domínguez Banderas
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V - I can't find your MySpace page. Send me a friend req to xdestynx and I'll hit you up, k?
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ppffftt antonio is a boy toy Pirus = Man toy
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An interesting note...after juggling these two girls back and forth for a week, both of them told me at different times yesterday that I was the most amazing guy they had ever met. So a tip on being amazing: be indecisive and go back and forth between girls. I felt like I had bungled this situation but both girls still want me. At least I've finally made a decision that I am going to stick to.
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hmm as the saying goes 2 giving head is better than 1 or is that 2 heads are better... ah nevermind in any case congrats on 2 g/f's I think lol
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V - I can't find your MySpace page. Send me a friend req to xdestynx and I'll hit you up, k?
haha done
i like this song
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An interesting note...after juggling these two girls back and forth for a week, both of them told me at different times yesterday that I was the most amazing guy they had ever met. So a tip on being amazing: be indecisive and go back and forth between girls. I felt like I had bungled this situation but both girls still want me. At least I've finally made a decision that I am going to stick to.
"Men want what they used to have and can't anymore. Women want what they absolutely can't have and what other women do have." -Sean Boyd
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I like that comment Lits. I really like it.
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V - I can't find your MySpace page. Send me a friend req to xdestynx and I'll hit you up, k?
haha done
I like this song
:D It's on the ftp at the mo ;) (I assume you meant Cobrastyle - http://www.omgwtfhaxx.co.uk/uploads/Cobra.mp3)
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An interesting note...after juggling these two girls back and forth for a week, both of them told me at different times yesterday that I was the most amazing guy they had ever met. So a tip on being amazing: be indecisive and go back and forth between girls. I felt like I had bungled this situation but both girls still want me. At least I've finally made a decision that I am going to stick to.
I hate you. :(
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Women want what they absolutely can't have and what other women do have.
So competitive, the lot of you. :)
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Speaking of dating... Ladies and Gentlemen, the ONLY man Lits would ever bring back to the Libertas...
(http://i52.photobucket.com/albums/g36/FALits/antonio-banderas.jpg)
José Antonio Domínguez Banderas
Do you mean?
(http://www.starstore.com/acatalog/Shrek_2pussinboots_L_poster.jpg)
or perhaps
(http://www.starstore.com/acatalog/Shrek_2_Cat-eyes_L-01.jpg)
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Hahahahahahahahahahahaha. Shrek The Third was hilarious. :D
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I can't blame her. Thats one tight pussy.